You just be you.
It’s not like any one of us can actually be other than who we are are. Problems, when there are any, come from other people wanting us to behave as if we are someone else. Typically, someone less troublesome, more compliant and not disruptive to anyone else’s preferences.
High androgen women tend not to fit neatly into 20th century social definitions of acceptable female behavior. Some of us are cheerfully, intentionally defiant. Some are simply unconcerned and unaffected by disapproval or lack of respect or kindness directed at us because of our differences. Others of us are sadly, unwillingly different-from the comfortable “norm”, and suffer the defamation of other people’s prejudices and limitations deeply, every day. Horrifyingly, in some cultures, non-compliant high androgen women are traumatized with rejection and eventually murdered, often by their own family, their close neighbors. This site aims to be a source of high quality information, of soothing, strengthening real life stories, a node of connection for a world-wide community of women who inhabit their authentic selves in peace and love.
For most of my life, being called a “Diva” was an insult. It was a judgement, implying a narcissistic self-absorption, a self-adoration rarely justified by personal achievement.
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a famous female opera singer of extraordinary talent and artistry.“your average opera isn’t over till the diva trills her high notes”
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a famous female singer of popular music.“a pop diva”
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a self-important person who is temperamental and difficult to please (typically used of a woman).“she is much more the dedicated maverick than the petulant diva”
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More recently “diva” seems to be used to describe any woman, operatic genius or not, who is primarily admired for her ability to focus mass attention on her typically cis-het appearance, accompanied by some form of remarkable financial success. A 21st century diva is admired to the degree she exhibits personal control over who she pleases, and how.
I want to validate EVERY woman’s right to want what she wants and get what she wants, because she wants it. After 2000 years of patriarchy, during which time women have been treated as if we are less-then, as if we are not fully human, and our lives have not been wholly under our own control, feeling like a modernly-defined diva can be pretty exhilarating. I do not want us to forget for a moment that when we exclude, we cause harm. I want not-slim, not-smooth, not-approved-as-arousing-to cis-males high androgen woman to be seen accurately and celebrated authentically, too.
I want every high androgen woman to experience herself in full control over every choice in her life. I want our choices to be free of obligations that require suppression of our true nature. If your power is freed up when you wear a crown, shine on precious jewel! If your effectiveness and joy are born from your inner resources and expressed without personal reference at all, I want that river to flow! A Diva, a Queen, a Warrior Woman, a Witch, Poet, Farmer, Builder, Thinker, Helper, Maker, Mom, whoever you are, whatever your contribution, I want you to Be You. We will help each other get there.

Many of you are enjoying the reliable benefits of inositol. Specifically, supplemental Myo-inositol has a proven track record for enhancing egg quality, normalizing ovulation, supporting weight management and inflammation by reducing insulin resistance and testosterone levels, as well as enhancing your heart health. Our knowledge of the benefits of D-chiro-inositol, on the other hand, is a bit more sketchy. Myo-inositol breaks down to D-chiro-inositol and in that form it has functions slightly different from its parent molecule. Some research suggests women with PCOS do not convert as much myo-inositol into D-chiro-inositol. It’s logical to wonder if adding D-chiro-inositol as a supplement will help. A series of research studies have been done looking at this combination. All are unfortunately flawed.
WHY HAVE A CONSULTATION?
Alrighty, so we know that high androgen women have a little tendency to anxiety and depression. Annoying but true. Now that I am older, and have had time to see what these experiences do and most importantly DON’T do in my life, I enjoy reworking these energies, taking the power and transforming it to something that serves me better. The Upward Spiral is a great book on the brain-chemistry of these experiences and how we can choose to extract ourselves from the sticky yuck and make something GOOD happen instead! No special equipment, no appointment needed! 
So many young women with PCOS struggle to become pregnant. Here are the basics for improving your chances of becoming pregnant and having a successful pregnancy. These suggestions are valuable when you are just starting to desire a pregnancy, and also when you have been at it a while and are considering using a form of medical technology to achieve pregnancy.
Men have the same challenges, and similar solutions, for increasing rates of infertility world-wide.
Our Weekly Wellness Guide has been focusing on the powerful choice of abandoning weight loss dieting in favor of mindful or ‘intuitive’ eating. When we can step back from the storm of negative messages about our appearance and the threatened loss of health, happiness and love, to find our own simple, quiet inner voice, our own self-knowing reliably moves us through life-giving change.
I frequently hear from women diagnosed with PCOS who are not over weight. The pervasive myth that PCOS means you are fat consternates all of us. Being “fat” is a dreaded condemnation. Many people can look in the mirror and see- if their self-concept is healthy- that they are objectively not over fat, and yet we frequently seek external validation from family and friends. When someone suffers a pronounced version of this distress it is called Body Dysmorphic Disorder or BDD. The following is borrowed from the Anxiety and Depression Association of America:
Hello dear UnCommon Women! This week I am sharing the story of Harnaan Kaur, a high-androgen woman who embraces her own unique beauty. I have been writing about the value of seeing the various advantages and strengths we enjoy as high androgen women, and we’ve acknowledged that most of the distress we feel has to do with the cosmetic effects of a high androgen system. There are few cultures that explicitly celebrate the beauty of a sexually mature woman with abundant body and facial hair. Harnaan Kaur has been choosing to maintain a public activism despite the predictable attempts by others to control her through shame and rejection. This young woman’s integrity, strength of character and courage are extraordinary. I hope you’ll join me in offering her applause and support:http://www.wittyfeed.com/…/This-Bride-With-Beard-Has-Change…
Hello Uncommon Woman. I want to talk about the uncommon strengths of high androgen women. Research into the genetic origins of our physiology describes how the significant benefits we enjoy as individuals also improves life for our families and communities. Every human society has always had a few women who have strong, lean bodies and a reliably longer lifespan. Part of that historical advantage came from having fewer babies, and having our children later in life.
Dear UnCommon Women ~ I am struggling to post today’s Weekly Wellness Guide. Discussing politics or religion is not my purpose here. But. In the face of yet another horrific mass slaying in an American church, of innocent people, beautiful, generative, contributing people, in their home of worship, I cannot pretend to be unaffected, or ignorant.
Hello UnCommon Woman~ Here’s your Weekly Wellness Guide!



Compassionate, Kind and Conscious Fat Management is key to being well for high-androgen women with PCOS.
You already know that diets don’t work for weight loss, right? We can lose, yep, but we almost always re-gain lost weight and usually with increasing amounts of fat and less muscle every time. Don’t despair! It’s OK! We can be rid of unhealthy amounts of body fat, life long. The way to do it, the ONLY way, is to start by eating only what you really love. And, nope, I am not crazy! I trust you- when you learn what works, you do it! Science proves it!
Green Tea is GOOD medicine!
You like that inexpensive, tastes good and potent natural medicine thing? I’m REALLY really excited about this one! Most of us understand that Vit D is key to human well being. 70% of North Americans are Vitamin D deficient! And, women with PCOS as a group have lower Vit D levels than average. Supplementing Vit D has clearly beneficial effects for us. It turns out that MUSHROOMS deliver hefty doses of Vit D! and drying them in the sun significantly increases the Vit D in your mushrooms, which is then stored, remaining potent for at least a year. It looks like the least expensive, most popular “button” mushrooms work as well as more expensive varieties like shitake and maitake.
Women with PCOS are no fatter than the rest of the population, and being fatter makes the living with PCOS experience worse.